My man is always broke

Dear Jolene,

I really like this guy that I met. He has a lot of good ways about him, but I am beginning to b turned out by one particular trait and that is his lack of money. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not a money loving person, I believe in treating my man as well as he treating me but since the day I met him I am yet to be treated. When we go out I have to foot the bill both for taxi and at the restaurant. He says he has sent out a lot of job applications but nothing has come in yet. He wants to take the relationship to another level … like us actually making love…but I have my doubts. He is even talking marriage…but Jolene if he can’t even fund a proper date, how is he going to take on a wife?!

 

DC 

Scarborough

 

Dear DC,

I don’t think there is anything I can tell you that you don’t already know. You are wondering the same thing and I totally agree with you … if he can’t find money to take you on a proper date, how he is going to stand up the responsibilities of being a husband.

If you two got married you would be sharing a home, the bills, food expenses … and from where I sit, it seems that you will be the only one with that headache.

Cool off from the dating thing and allow him to get his act together, then you can decide where you want to go with the relationship. He seems too comfortable allowing you to spend, you don’t want to get into a situation where you are being used. Don’t be too desperate to get into a relationship that you sell yourself short.

 

Jolene